First, let me just tell you how incredible I feel today! I have been waiting for just the right time to pull out this amazing dress, that fits like a glove if I do say so myself, and today was it! I was lucky enough to score this dress for FREE and to say that I feel pretty fantastic in it, would be the understatement of the year. Can we just take a minute to admire the awesome details all over this dress before we jump into douchbaggery? 🙂 I will just hang out here while you check it out (isn’t the embroidery so very awesome??).
Since I am feeling so incredible, and strong, I feel like today is just as good as any to address some dating tips for the men folk.
Recently, I was talking to a guy that I had hoped would lead up to a meeting and great convo over coffee. He was an older gentleman and according to his pictures, quite handsome. He looked a little worn to be honest, but I didn’t mind…….my hope was that it meant he was a rugged individual who would be able to climb a tower to rescue me if necessary (ok, that is a stretch, but I’m feeling animated today).
We had talked before but it fizzled out (which should’ve been my first clue). This time, he decides to say “Can I be brutally honest?”. I always brace myself when I get a text like that. You just never know where it’s headed from there.
After our conversation, and his surprise that I wasn’t completely offended, he has not contacted me again. We text a few times, only because I initiated the conversation. This is the part where I realize early enough that he is “just not that into me” and move along. And I will. Because I am strong enough to…….especially in this dress today!
When you explain to a woman that you can’t date her because of her size, what you are really saying is:
- I hold myself in such a regard, that I think I am extremely handsome and therefore in a higher regard than you as a fat person. There is a 99.999% chance that you would not qualify for People’s hottest men. This thinking (whether you realize you are doing it or not) makes you a jackass.
- Not that number 1 wasn’t enough to just stop, let’s discuss a few more. You are saying that you have no ability to invest time. Cause you might discover that the fat girl is working on herself everyday. Not necessarily to be a skinny minny…but to be a better, healthier version of herself. If she is as strong, ambitious and kickbutt as I happen to be, then she is also probably working towards conquering the world and realizes she needs to be the best version of her to do so. Because she is most likely self aware enough that she needs to be her best…..what your statement says is that you are not willing to invest time and be a part of that improvement.
- You are clearly not self aware. Cause unless you are walking around with zero body fat, the title of Mr. Olympia, and the servant heart of Mother Teresa, you need self improvement too. The difference is, that girl was probably willing to invest the time in you and would’ve probably loved you despite you not carrying the Mr. Olympia title.
- You are insecure. You need a “pretty” person to validate yourself. And you probably couldn’t have handled this girl anyway. That might seem a bit dramatic, but I promise you that deep down (maybe deeper for some than others) that plays a part. Maybe you are worried what your friends would think…..again…insecurity.
Do I care that you don’t want to date a bigger girl? Really, I don’t. Not even a little bit. And I have no desire to launch a war against all men who don’t want to date big girls. What I DO want to do is make you aware that we don’t care and that while you probably think we are crying in a corner over your decision, we are really thinking the above.
Do us a favor and don’t even engage. We aren’t here to make you feel better or like you are saving us. And we are probably too fabulous on our own journey to derail it for you. We won’t morph into the naughty body you are looking for overnight. And there is a huge chance that we don’t want to.
For those of you just joining us, I have been shopping in my closet in an effort not to save money. So, we couple that with other randomness to bring you these blogs 🙂 Check out my Shopping In My Closet Project here! Take a look around!